I swear my Mum's boyfriend knows I'm Lily cos the setting on my computer for yahoo were changed?

Right, first things first, I'm a 15year old male-to- female transsexual living as a guy currently and I've known that I should have been born a girl since 9years old.





Now, lately my Mum got a new boyfriend, i had come out to her once and she shouted at me before I'd finished speaking and has ignored the problem since hoping it will go away.





Now a few days back I caught my Mum's boyfriend looking through my history on the computer as I headed to my room and my profile and some of my question were on the list, unfortunately for him I have my account so it's only signed in when i sign myself in and it doesn't do it automatically, so he had no proof it was me but has tried to trick it out of me since.





When i'd signed in today though, the setting had been change so that I was signed in automatically after I signed in and I'm the only one in my house who uses yahoo and I always have the setting so I'm never automatically signed in, meaning someone altered them.





Luckily I went on the computer twice in a row so I noticed this before anyone else went on and altered the settings, but I swear my Mum's boyfriend altered the setting to catch me out and prove I was Lily.





Do you think it was him?





My Mum doesn't know a thing about computers so it couldn't be her I know that.

I swear my Mum's boyfriend knows I'm Lily cos the setting on my computer for yahoo were changed?
take him to one side an ask him out right, dont accuse him of anything, then say, 'if it is you, stop it now, its none of your buisness' you could even pull out the old 'ur not my dad' card.
Reply:*He's* helping you get the wireless? He can still spy on you, if that's his goal.





I'd unset that setting right away if I were you, and try to do as little online in your home as possible. If you have a laptop with wireless access, start hanging out in wi-fi hotspots. If you don't, start saving to get one.
Reply:Paranoid are we not.
Reply:Just be extremely careful..don't sign into Yahoo when you know he's around. Make sure you sign out each time you use this site.





Make sure to fix the settings if he changes them.


And if you don't want him to have proof that you're "Lily" don't admit it.


If he finds out, you can say one of your female friends signed into Yahoo from your computer or that you checked your friend's email from Yahoo.





Just deny it.
Reply:You must try and lock your computer





If you can't do that you should change your password for BtYahoo asap and keep it secret
Reply:If he's doing that then he's probably going to read that post and figure out who it is, so delete your history.
Reply:honestly like the answer waqs i'd pull him out and asks what its got to do with him about your sexuality or what your name is...honestly it what ever you feel comfortable in tell him and if he cant accept it then id copy all files from a comuter profile make a new 1 and move the files to that and keep the remaining files NOT shared and also password protect the profile you will be use..but dont make the enw 1 an admastrator if he asks why you did it and asks for a password simply tell him no or because its personal stuff in there and i dont want you going through it...its not right
Reply:hm, this sounds like something my parents would do. that's why i change my passwords often





it could've been...or your sisters.





just change your password, and consiously log out
Reply:Stop using the computer %26amp; adjust the settings so it doesn't record your history. If you have a lap top, use that but keep it somewhere safe.





If you're on Internet Explorer, go to Tools then Options and on the General tab, under History, click clear history %26amp; set the days to keep history to 0, click apply. Under Temporary Internet files, delete cookies %26amp; delete files.





Under the Content tab, click Autocomplete %26amp; tick and untick as appropriate. Also check for anything in My Profile.





Don't forget to click Apply %26amp; Okay to confirm your new settings.








I'm sure there's some way to check if something's recording your passwords, etc as well but I don't know what it is.





His nosiness may be harmless, he may be checking to make sure you're not on sites that he %26amp; your mother think are unsuitable. If you're spending a lot of time on the internet %26amp; they don't know what you're up they may be worried.
Reply:Delete your history before you sign off. Change all your passwords. Make sure you sign out of Yahoo completely before you turn your computer off. :-)
Reply:You could always ask him or even your if they have been using your computer, and they say yes, ask what for etc, but don't say it to them like you are accusing them of spying on you. And when you finish sign out and clear your history before you switch off, that way they wont know anything, but as long as they don't know how you type in you ID like LILY LiLy, lily etc and what your password is (providing it is not an easy password to work out) then you should be fine, you could put a password in that you would know that would think of. I don't want you to think this but he could showing her how to use a computer as a possibility.
Reply:Tell him to get his nose out of things that have nothing to do with him.








You do realise that if he reads this question he's going to be pretty sure it's you Lily.








I like the name Lily. Just thought i'd say. :P
Reply:I suggest going low profile. Create a new account for the moment and leave the auto log in on. Make this new account all about you and your male personna. Let him find this so that he will think that this is your account and that you just have some wierd friends. Use that new account to watch and don't ask any questions that might give away that you are trans. You should ask questions and in those questions make reference to your trans "friend." Hopefully this will throw him for a loop until you get your computer. When you do I suggest Hideing it in a box that you can lock so your mom's boyfriend can't go into your room and keep doing this.
Reply:You could just ask him matter of factly if he hapened to change any of the settings while he was "helping" you set things up, ask him perhaps did he know he had done it? That way he knows you know, at least that he is spying on you. Or you could come right out and say something like "I don't want to seem paranoid, but a couple of times you have done things like check my history and change sign in settings on the computer, is there anything you would like to know, perhaps you and mum are concerned and I can put your mind at rest?". If he doesn't have the b*llocks to come right out and ask you, then you could just say something like "fair enough, I hope you and mum will continue to respect my privacy on-line, I am really excited about getting broadband in my room and really thankful that you are helping me with it, but I do need my privacy and will hapily discuss anything with you and mum, it is just the principle of it, I am sure you understand". That, is about all you can do apart from make sure you check your settings and change your passwords and stuff.



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